Resilience and Transformation

Helping women recover from
and flourish after
stress and trauma

Melanie Kimberlin

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Welcome to Kimberlin Coaching – the home of the Resilience and Transformation Group.

You ask me, what does that mean – resilience and transformation?

We are women who have been through something painful – a loss or change of some kind – maybe divorce, a job loss, the death of a loved one or life just not turning out the way we expected.

  • We’ve grieved,

  • We’ve been angry,

  • We’ve been depressed,

  • We’ve cried,

  • We’ve ranted and raved.

We’re tired of it.

We're tired of it, and just want to move on. We want to become more resilient and move forward into transformation.

We aren’t saying we’re not affected by our past; we just don’t want to be ruled by it anymore.

We want to:

  • Process what needs to be processed,

  • Change what needs to be changed, and

  • Accept what needs to be accepted.

We want to flourish.

We want to find our strength and flourish, finding out who we are, who we want to be, and experiencing joy again in our lives. We’re ready for it but maybe we’re not quite sure how to make it happen. This group is to let us support each other as we move forward in our quest.

About Me

Melanie Kimberlin, CPC, ELI-MP

Melanie Kimberlin

My life has not turned out like I planned it or how I wanted it to! I have fought an eating disorder for over 30 years – which led me to 12-step recovery programs, where I have been blessed to be able to mentor women for many years. I have been married twice – and because of poor choices all around, ended up with me experiencing a lot of grief. Losing relationships with my children (thankfully, I am reconciled with 3 of my 4 kids at the moment), was married to an alcoholic for 13 years (4 of those with him in prison), and have now been happily single for many years. These are just a few of the things. And there are a lot of women out there who can give the same list, if not worse.


During my dark days, people often gave me advice, definitely well-meaning, and probably good advice. But I usually could not act on it. Now that I see how powerful coaching is, I wish I had had a coach back when I was going through the rough years. I decided to become certified to be a professional life coach so that I can help other women navigate these stormy waters more smoothly than I was able to.

  • I love purple.

  • I love dogs and have a menagerie – 2 dogs and 2 cats.

  • I was married for a total of 32 years, to 2 different men, the second one an alcoholic.

  • I have 2 sons, 1 daughter, 2 bonus daughters, 4 grandchildren, and 3 bonus grandchildren, though not all are reconciled with me.

  • I have been happily single for many years and love spending time with my grandbabies.

  • I am a Christian and am happy to coach on spiritual matters.

  • I have been actively involved in mentoring ladies through 12-step recovery for over 30 years. I have been a leader (Women’s Training Coach) in Celebrate Recovery for 12 years.

  • Certified Professional Coach from IPEC, the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (one of the top 3 Coaching Schools)

  • Associate Certified Coach - International Coaching Federation

  • Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner (ELI-MP).

  • COR.E Dynamics Transition Specialist.

  • COR.E Dynamics Leadership Specialist

  • COR.E Dynamics Wellbeing Specialist

  • Certified Trauma Support Specialist. - Arizona Trauma Institute

  • Board certified as an ANWCB Life Coach (American Association of National Wellness Coaches Board)

Work With Me

Helping women recover from and flourish after stress and trauma.

If you’ve worked through or are working through a major transition and are having a tough time, you know you want to make a change, but you know you need some help, consider hiring me as your coach. If that’s something that you’re open to learning more about, fill out the form at the bottom of this page. I will follow up with you and we can create a relaxed conversation and decide where to go from there.

Coaching Options

1. One-on-One Coaching - contact me below for a conversation

2. Small Group Coaching (no more than 10 people at a time) - Availability dependent on demand - get a group of friends and contact me below, or let me know you're interested and I'll set one up as soon as we get a group. 4-month package includes:

  • one 30-minute one-on-one session

  • three 90-minute group coaching zoom calls per month

  • private Facebook group and

  • unlimited email support

3. Monthly Subscription Group - under construction. Includes:

  • weekly hour-long zoom meeting with short lesson and group interaction/coaching on various life-empowering topics

  • private Facebook group

Contact Me

Fill out this form and I will contact you so we can set up a conversation.

Tell me as specifically and as concisely as possible:

  • What are you seeking, and

  • Why you are considering hiring me as your Coach?

We want to flourish, finding out who we are, who we want to be, and experiencing joy again in our lives.


Debbie Thornton

Debbie Thornton

"Melanie is an incredible teacher"

"So to be quite honest. I have struggled to write a review of my accountability partner and friend Melanie. She is such an amazing woman I was afraid my words could not convey all that she means to me and others.

I have had the privilege to work with Melanie for about eight years in  Celebrate recovery. The first thing that impresses me is she shows up every single week. Not only does she show up but she is excited. She is excited about recovery and how it can literally change the lives of the women who are willing to do the work. She leads step groups-taking large groups of women through the 12 steps. But more than that she helps each woman individually.  Her kindness love and compassion for each woman is so evident. She goes above and beyond just being a group leader.

Melanie is also an incredible teacher. At CR she is our training coach.  Monthly we have coaches meetings and Melanie leads us through a training to help us all make this program more effective. I can seriously go on and on and on about the attributes of Melanie. What she brings to my life and into the life of countless other people. But to sum it up, she is faithful, reliable and wise. Because she has done the work herself- she is excited to pass her experience, strength and hope to others."

~ Debbie Thornton

Sherrie Coleman

Sherrie Coleman

"I have witnessed the significant differences Melanie has made"

"I have known Melanie for over 6 years. Working in groups with her, I have observed her wisdom and kindness in helping individuals identify and confront problems in the individual’s life.

Melanie asks probing questions that allow the individual to examine their beliefs and actions and how these beliefs and actions contribute to the problems in the person’s life. Melanie lets individuals work at their own pace. Melanie is an excellent guide.

I highly recommend her as a life coach. I have witnessed the significant differences Melanie has made in many women’s lives."

~ Sherrie Coleman

Janette Esch

Janette Esch

"This past year has been a journey of true transformation for me"

"I would love to just express the love and gratitude I have for Melanie, working with her has been such a blessing. This past year has been a journey of true transformation for me and I could not have done it without her guidance.

Melanie led/walked me through some mental, emotional, and spiritual healing. She provided me with tools to implement in my everyday life, that to this day I still utilize. She was kind, compassionate, and a great listener. She truly heard what I needed and helped me to achieve my desired level of healing. Melanie was not just a coach for me, but a dear friend I can depend on if I ever need help in life again.

I am grateful that I can attest to her work and I would choose her over and over again! Thank you Melanie!"

~ Janette Esch

Laura Castaneda

Laura Castaneda

"Melanie desires nothing but to see you succeed"

~ Laura Castaneda


I recommend:
Free Values Assessment

Self-Help / Relationships / Divorce

TitleAuthorAvailable from Amazon:
The Gifts of Imperfection Brené BrownBuy
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead Brené BrownBuy
Tiny Habits – The Small Changes that Change EverythingB. J. Fogg, Phd.Buy
BoundariesHenry Cloud and John TownsendBuy
Why Did You Have to Get a Divorce? And When Can I Get A Hamster: A Guide to Parenting Through DivorceAnthony E. Wolf, Ph.D.Buy
Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling MenLundy BancroftBuy


TitleAuthorAvailable from Amazon:
Discerning the Voice of God, How to Recognize When God is SpeakingPriscilla ShirerBuy
The Rock, the Road and the RabbiKathie Lee GiffordBuy
Battlefield of the Mind: Winning the Battle in Your MindJoyce MeyerBuy
Breaking Free: Discover the Victory of Total SurrenderBeth MooreBuy
Get Out of That PitBeth MooreBuy
When Godly People Do Ungodly Things: Arming Yourself in the Age of SeductionBeth MooreBuy

Body Perception / Food Issues

TitleAuthorAvailable from Amazon:
Mindless Eating - Why We Eat More Than We ThinkBrian Wansink, Ph.D.Buy
Intuitive EatingEvelyn Tribole and Elyse ReschBuy
8 Keys to Recovery From An Eating DisorderCarolyn Costin and Gwen Schubert GrabbBuy
Life without EdJenni SchaeferBuy
Goodbye Ed, Hello MeJenni SchaeferBuy
Brain Over BingeKathryn HansenBuy


My To-Read List

I always have so many books I want to read; once I read these I will move them up in the list. Feel free to give me your recommendations – I may add them to my To-Read List.

  • Anxious for Nothing by Max Lucado

  • It’s Okay Not to be Okay by Sheila Walsh

  • Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Marilee Adams

  • Me and White Supremacy; Combat Racism, Change the World, and Become a Good Ancestor by Layla F. Saad

  • When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies by Jane R.. Hirschman and Carol H. Munter

  • When God Doesn’t Fix It by Laura Story

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Sunday Springboard : Live Broadcast

Every Sunday, 4:00PM CST

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Watch These Previous Springboard Episodes:

Series TitleVideo Title
COR.E Disciplines – Part 5#54 – And What About Others? Awareness-Part3
COR.E Disciplines – Part 4#53 –Who Are You? Awareness-Part2
COR.E Disciplines – Part 3#52 – How Aware Are You? Awareness-Part1
COR.E Disciplines – Part 2#51 – Who Actually Wants to Be Disciplined?
COR.E Disciplines – Part 1#50 – You Can’t Teach an Old Dog New Tricks - WRONG!
Stress and Trauma – Part 7#49 – I’m Not Stressed! You’re Stressed!
Stress and Trauma – Part 6#48 – Get Me Out of Here!
Stress and Trauma – Part 5#47 - I’m Too Stressed Out!
Embracing Change – Part 6#46 – What Kind of Goals Work for Me?
Embracing Change – Part 5#45 – How Can I Break the Change Cycle?
Embracing Change – Part 4#44 –Forgiveness – So Hard – So Freeing
Embracing Change – Part 3#43 – I Didn’t Choose This! – Unwanted Change
Embracing Change – Part 2#42 – Trauma Bond - Why Can’t I Leave?
Embracing Change – Part 1#41 – Why Can’t I Move On?
Stress and Trauma – Part 4#40 - Is That Relevant?
Stress and Trauma – Part 3#39 - Road Work on the Highway of Our Brain
Stress and Trauma – Part 2#38 - Bruce Banner or Hulk?
Stress and Trauma – Part 1#37 - You’re Not Crazy!
Stand Alone#36 - Grace - Lessen Stress and Increase Joy
Holiday Tips - Part 4#35 - Happy Holidays Regardless
Holiday Tips - Part 3#34 - Happy Holidays Regardless
Holiday Tips - Part 2#33 - Happy Holidays Regardless
Holiday Tips - Part 1#32 - Happy Holidays Regardless
Influencers - – Part 13#31 – Is Your Environment Friendly? - Environmental Influencer
Influencers - – Part 12#30 – Social Butterfly? Or Not – Social Influencer (Part 2)
Influencers - – Part 11#29 – Social Butterfly? Or Not – Social Influencer (Part 1)
Influencers - – Part 10#28 – Let’s Get Physical – Physical Influencer (Part 3)
Influencers - – Part 9#27 – Let’s Get Physical – Physical Influencer (Part 2)
Influencers - – Part 8#26 – Let’s Get Physical – Physical Influencer (Part 1)
Stand Alone#25 – BONUS – Leaving an Abusive Relationship
Influencers - – Part 7#24 – I Get So Emotional – Emotional Influencer (Part 3)
Influencers - – Part 6#23 – I Get So Emotional – Emotional Influencer (Part 2)
Influencers - – Part 5#22 – I Get So Emotional – Emotional Influencer (Part 1)
Influencers - – Part 4#21 – My Brain is Saying WHAT? - Mental Influencer (Part 2)
Influencers - – Part 3#20 – My Brain is Saying WHAT? - Mental Influencer (Part 1)
Influencers - – Part 2#19 – What’s My Purpose Anyway? - Spiritual Influencer
Influencers - – Part 1#18 – Don’t Stress Me Out – Intro
Stand Alone#17 – What is a Coach Anyway?
Energy Blocks– Part 5#16 – Don’t Block My Energy - Gremlins
Energy Blocks– Part 4#15 – Don’t Block My Energy –Assumptions
Energy Blocks– Part 3#14 – Don’t Block My Energy –Interpretations
Energy Blocks– Part 2#13 – Don’t Block My Energy –Limiting Beliefs
Energy Blocks – Part 1#12 – Don’t Block My Energy Intro
Levels of Energy – Part 8#11 – I AM – Winning and Losing are Illusions – Level 7 Energy
Levels of Energy – Part 7#10 – We are the World – Level 6 Energy
Levels of Energy – Part 6#9 – Good Luck, Bad Luck, Who Knows – Level 5 Energy
Levels of Energy – Part 5#8 – Can I Help You? Level 4 Energy
Levels of Energy – Part 4#7 – Let’s Make Lemonade – Level 3 Energy
Levels of Energy – Part 3#6 – Why Do You Make Me So Angry? – Level 2 Energy
Levels of Energy – Part 2#5 – I Can’t Win For Losing – Level 1 Energy
Levels of Energy – Part 1#4 – What Energy Are You Feeling? Intro
Stand Alone#3 – Action and Acceptance
Stand Alone#2 – Kick That Anxiety

#54 – And What About Others? Awareness – Part 3 - Core Disciplines - Part 5

And what about others? Do we just concentrate on ourselves? Do we just focus on others? How do we find a balance?
Do we live our lives based on what other people want us to do? Are we more concerned with pleasing others than doing what is best for us? How can we make an effect for good in the world around us, starting with ourselves? We will explore the concepts of how we allow others to influence us and, also, how we are influencing others.

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#53 – Who Are You? Awareness – Part 2 - Core Disciplines - Part 4

What do you like? Who are you? What do you want? Do you even know? So many of us have spent so much of our lives unaware – just traveling through life, working, parenting, serving – that we have no clue who we really are.
There comes a time in our lives, whether early or late, where we get hit in the face with that question – who am I? Who we are determines that kind of people and situations that we attract. This Sunday we will look at the different areas of our lives where we want to ponder and explore and discover who we are, really, and what do we want out of our lives.

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#52 – How Aware are You? Awareness – Part 1 -
Core Disciplines - Part 3

How aware are you? Most of us spend 84 percent of our time running on habit and only 14 percent actually being aware of what is going on around us. Therefore, for the most part, we are not making conscious decisions.
Awareness is the essential first step toward living life, your way. To be aware, you need to be constantly observing - assessing yourself and everything around you. When you are aware, you understand that what is true for you is not necessarily the Truth. In order to live the powerful, joyful lives you desire, you need to become aware of who you are, why you are who you are, and how you are reacting to your circumstances.

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#51 – Who Actually Wants to Be Disciplined?
Core Disciplines - Part 2

When I tell you we’re going to study about the COR.E Disciplines, does your brain kindof react and think, “ugh, who really wants to be disciplined? It’s so hard. I’m really more into freedom and doing what I want when I want.” Yeah, me too. And I would ask you, “how is that working for you?”
The word “discipline” is significant in that it means both “a branch of knowledge or teaching” as well as “to train by instruction or practice.” So we are going to learn these powerful concepts, you can call them anything you want – but they’re beliefs and practices that will help you live in your own power, and reduce the stress and/or your reaction to the stress you encounter in your daily life, whether at work or at home.

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#50 – You Can’t Teach an Old Dog New Tricks - WRONG! COR.E Disciplines Part 1

You’ve heard the saying “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, and some of us embrace it and use it as an excuse to just stay where we are, even if we’re not even enjoying the life we have created. Thankfully, scientists have discovered that our brains can continue changing and growing (heavier, not bigger) for all of our lives.
Before we study the COR.E Disciplines, we want to be aware of which mindset we are entering into the study with - a growth/mastery mindset or a fixed/performance mindset.

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#49 – I’m Not Stressed! You’re Stressed!
Stress and Trauma Part 7

Have you ever had an occasion where something happened that totally stressed you out but the same situation didn’t even affect the other person with you? Or vice versa? Why is that? Isn’t stress just stress? I mean, if you encounter stress in your life, doesn’t it follow that you are going to be stressed?
Apparently, the answer is no. It is our reaction to, and thoughts about, a "stressful" situation that determine how much stress the situation will actually create for us.
Today we will talk about to reduce our stress by changing our attitudes about it.

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#48 – Get Me Out of Here! Stress and Trauma Part 6

Stress is a part of daily life. We can’t eliminate it totally, nor should we. The stress of getting out of our comfort zone and trying something new is a healthy stress, and one that contributes to us growing into the person we truly want to be. Some stress is tolerable, but maybe not optimal. Some stress is toxic and we need to try to remove that kind of stress from our lives, as much as possible.

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#47 –I’m Too Stressed Out! Stress and Trauma Part 5

Do you just feel toooo stressed out? Maybe you can’t even remember the last time you felt relaxed and calm. We know that stress harms our bodies, as well as our brains and our emotional and mental state. In fact, Trauma is actually what happens in the body when you’re under prolonged stress, rather than just one traumatic event.
In this session we will talk about some practical ways to de-stress or “regulate” ourselves in the moment.

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#46 –What Kind of Goals Work for Me? Embracing Change – Part 6

Do you create a goal and then can’t follow through with it? Or does someone else suggest a goal that would seem like a good one for you, but you just don’t feel motivated to do it? Then you beat yourself up because you can’t get yourself to take any action toward the goal?
Maybe you’re looking at goals in the wrong way. Depending on the way we individually react to stress, we may be more successful if we change the way we create our goals.

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#45 –How Can I Break the Change Cycle? – Embracing Change – Part 5

Deliberate change can be a difficult process. Many well-intentioned people have changes they want to make in their lives, but they get stuck repeating the same “change cycle” over and over again. We start, we slow down, we stop, we start over…This is a common cycle, and though some of it comes from emotional reasons, there is actually a physiological component to it also.
This week we will talk about how to set ourselves up for success, rather than failure, when we truly want to make changes in our lives.

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#44 –Forgiveness – So Hard – So Freeing - Embracing Change – Part 4

Forgiveness is hard. And unforgiveness is even harder.
When you hold a resentment against someone, it is allowing that person to live rent-free in your brain, it allows them to remain in control of you. We don’t want that – we want to be free. It is also the poison that we drink and expect the other person to die. It doesn’t work – they’re still alive and we’re the one who is dying.

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#43 – I Didn’t Choose This! – Unwanted Change – Embracing Change – Part 3

I used to believe that if something wasn’t going my way, it just meant that I needed to obsess longer and harder and eventually I would find a way to make it go my way. Say the right thing, do the right thing, just keep thinking about it and eventually I could make it work out. What that way of thinking did to me was make me crazy! Sometimes we are in situations – in major upheavals and changes - that we did not choose and that are out of our control. Maybe our loved one has passed away. We are in an unwanted divorce. We have been laid off from our job, evicted from our home, or dealing with reconstruction after a storm. What do we do then?

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#42 – Trauma Bond- Why Can't I Leave? - Embracing Change – Part 2

Do you wonder what in the world happened? You were a confident, happy, hopeful person – you had a good job and friends and were enjoying life. And then you met someone who made you feel amazing and showered you with love and you thought this was your soul mate, and it has turned out terrible. And still, you can’t leave. You find yourself listing all the terrible things going on in your relationship - you know the situation is toxic - but for some reason, you just stay. You are probably experiencing what is known as a “Trauma Bond.” This emotional attachment develops out of a repeated cycle of abuse, devaluation, and positive reinforcement.

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#41 – Why Can’t I Move On?
Embracing Change – Part 1

You may be in a situation where you ask yourself, why can’t I move on? This may be in regards to a toxic environment you don’t seem to be able to leave or it could be that you have removed yourself physically from the abuse but still don’t feel emotionally free. Maybe you are in a situation that you did not choose – and you feel stuck, wishing things were like they used to be, and unable to move forward and find joy again in your life.
These are normal feelings, and there are reasons why you find this difficult. We will discuss the different reasons you feel stuck and some tools to help you break free and move forward into the life you want and deserve.

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#40 – Is That Relevant? Recovery from Stress and Trauma – Part 4

Remember that our brains want to keep us safe more than anything - they are always on the lookout for danger. If you notice, you will realize how much stimuli are bombarding our brains at any minute of the day – way too much information to be processed. So, our brains are constantly scanning for what is relevant. This is called selective attention – our brains focus on what they consider relevant and ignore the rest
Today we’re going to talk about relevancy and what that means for us as we are trying to understand our brains and our bodies and recover from the trauma that stress has created for us.

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#39 – Road Work on the Highway of Our Brain - Recovery from Stress and Trauma – Part 3

Our brains love habits because they enable it to act more quickly in a more efficient way. Good habits serve us well, bad habits not so much. Although scientists for many years thought the brain stopped changing after a certain time, now we know that our brains can continue to grow and change. This is a wonderful thing!

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#38 – Bruce Banner or Hulk?
Recovery from Stress and Trauma – Part 2

Do you remember Bruce Banner? He was mild-mannered, reasonable, calm and focused. But when he turned into the Hulk, he could no longer be reasoned with - he was agitated, angry, and behaved “badly”. This is a metaphor of what can happen to us when we get too much of the “fiery cocktail” of 30 or more hormones our brains pour into our bodies mistakenly thinking they are helping us. We have a threshold of tolerance toward irritants in our lives and depending on our own background, our daily level of stress, whenever we hit our individual threshold, we can turn into Hulk. Or maybe we have family members who are in Hulk mode. This week we will learn more about this Hulk phenomena and how to slow down his appearance and calm him down once he does appear.

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#37 - You’re Not Crazy -
Recovery from Stress and Trauma - Part 1

We are starting a new series about Recovering from Stress and Trauma. Our first lesson will be an explanation of what is going on in our bodies that is causing all of these uncomfortable sensations. All along the way we will learn tools and techniques to help us calm our bodies and move out of these negative emotions and back into our power and energy that will let us move forward into the lives we want to live.

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#36 –Grace – Lessen Stress and Increase Your Joy

The acrostic GRACE helps us remember these 5 points which will help you lessen stress and increase your joy as we close out this year.
Grace – nobody was prepared for this pandemic - Grace. To them and to yourself.
Realize what you can control and what you cannot – let go of the things you cannot control.
Allow yourselves to believe that good enough is good enough. That perfection does not exist.
Care – you are already caring for others – spend some time on self-care.
Experience life one moment at a time –look around and see what good things are going on in your life – gratitude is one of the best ways to overcome stress and depression.

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#35 – Happy Holidays Regardless - Part 4

On our last week of our Holiday Tips Series, we are going to talk about how to allow yourself the grace to take care of yourself and make sure that you have some enjoyable times. Even though earlier we talked about getting our focus off of ourselves and onto others, it is good to have a balance. We have to take care of ourselves in order to be strong enough and rested enough to take care of our families

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#34 - Happy Holidays Regardless - Part 3

Christmas would be so much fun if it just wasn’t so stressful! And this year perhaps it’s more challenging than usual! This week let’s talk about finances and other annoying things that may come up during the holidays. Even if Christmas 2020 isn’t a Hallmark Christmas, that doesn’t mean it can’t be a really memorable one. Let’s make the choice!

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#33 – Happy Holidays Regardless - Part 2

This is week 2 of our 4-video series on Holiday Tips. How to have happy holidays even when they don't look like they usually do or in any way the way we wish they would.
This week we will talk about missing our loved ones. This could be for many different reasons, some more emotional than others. We can make decisions to "not do Christmas" like I did the first year or decide to find a way to have a happy Christmas regardless.

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#32 - Happy Holidays Regardless - Part 1

Many of our holidays will look a lot different this year and we can be sad or we can be sad and glad at the same time. Our next 4 Sundays we will look at Holiday tips and some things to think about as we try to make this year be our best year ever, or at least a year full of love and joy and, yes, some fun also.

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#31 – Is Your Environment Friendly? -
Influencers Part 13

Environmental factors are those that are related to the setting and/or conditions around you and in which you will perform. In addition to the people around you, there are tangible, physical external elements that affect your energy. Your environment will affect your stress level, as well as how willing and enthusiastic you are to perform the tasks that will allow you to implement changes in your life. Though environmental factors aren’t always under your control (you can’t stop the rain from falling), you can learn to control the effect they have on you.

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#30 - Social Butterfly? Or Not - Part 2 - Influencers Part 12

This week we will continue to discuss the social factors influencing our energy. A powerful way to deal with difficult people and to improve your energy through any social interaction is to develop better listening and communication skills. We will also talk about developing our network of supportive people.
Listening is the most important aspect of communication. It is through listening that we learn and grow. Listening enables you to shift your energy and to inspire others. It is ironic that while listening is so important, few people do it and fewer do it well.

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#29 – Social Butterfly? Or Not - Part 1 -
Influencers Part 1

This week we will be learning about the social factors influencing our energy. Having the “right” amount and type of interaction with others and feeling supported can be social keys to performance.
Social Influencers detract from energy when social conditions aren’t optimal for us or when other people’s catabolic energy affects our own energy.

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#28 – Let’s Get Physical - Part 3 - Influencers Part 10

You may be highly driven by your sense of purpose, laser-focused, and excited about what you’re about to do, but if you’re operating on one hour of sleep after eating plates of fried food and snacks, and you’re not fit overall, then you’re not likely to have a lot of energy to take action. If you “power through,” then you’ll find yourself spent, with nothing left in the tank, and you will, in fact, lower your immune system, which can lead to many challenges.
The more proactive you are about taking care of your physical self, the more your energy will be present where and when it needs to be used.

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#27 – Let’s Get Physical - Part 2 - Influencers Part 9

This week we are continuing to explore ways to make the physical influencer work for us, not against us. We will be talking about two of our favorite things – NOT! But so important – yes, we’re talking about food and fitness. The more we choose food and drink that fuel our bodies wisely, the healthier we will be and the more energy we’ll have available. We will discuss some tips for making conscious choices about what we eat and drink: Every individual is different, so it’s important to explore YOUR ideal requirements.

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#26 – Let’s Get Physical - Part 1 - Influencers Part 8

It’s hard to enjoy or even concentrate on performing when your body is not strong and healthy. This week we will be exploring the Physical Influencer. Physical factors influencing your energy involve those things that create a state of physical wellbeing and readiness. When you are feeling physically strong and active, you have the best chance of experiencing the energy you need to complete the goals and tasks that are important to you. When your body is not able to function in an optimal manner, you will have low energy.
Today the physical influences we will explore are: Health, Sleep, and Breathing.

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#25 - BONUS - Leaving an Abusive Relationship

Tonya Record of CoCreation Transition Coaching and Melanie Kimberlin of Kimberlin Coaching have a discussion about leaving and recovering from an abusive relationship. We also talk about how the brain works and some tips to get through the pandemic, or any other stressful time in your life without losing your mind.

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#24 – I Get So Emotional (Part 3) -
Influencers Part 7

“Your emotions make you human. Even the unpleasant ones have a purpose. Don't lock them away. If you ignore them, they just get louder and angrier.” ― Sabaa Tahir, A Torch Against the Night
Emotions are temporary – often we think if we experience something we will feel that way forever – instead of saying “I feel sadness”, we say things like “I am sad” – so “I am sad” is more my identity than something that I’m actually experiencing. We can know that no matter what we feel, we will be ok. If you’re embarrassed you’ll be ok – if you’re disappointed you’ll be ok – if you did something where good enough feels barely good enough then you’re going to be ok.

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#23 – I Get So Emotional (Part 2) -
Influencers Part 6

Do you ever get your buttons pushed? Well, someone can only push a button that already exists. So if you are confident in your speaking skills, and someone says something derogatory about your speech, you’re likely going to laugh it off. But, if you were insecure about your presentation skills, you might take the comment personally and get very upset by the remark. That remark only pushes a button if the button already exists within you. In other words, if you doubt your ability in some area and someone reinforces that belief, your button gets pushed.

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#22 – I Get So Emotional (Part 1) -
Influencers Part 5

Most people don’t understand their emotions. We react to and live in the effect of our emotions and forget what our purpose even is. We try to avoid what feels bad instead of listening to the emotions and figuring out what they’re trying to tell us.
Remember that even though we have emotions, they don’t have to have us. Emotions can be used as tools to help us understand what is going on for us in any particular situation.

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#21 - My Brain is saying WHAT? (Part 2 )
Influencers, Part 4

If you don’t feel at peace in your life, or restless and not energetic about your life, you can check in and see whether the spiritual influencer is affecting you. When you are asking yourself questions like “What is my purpose, anyway?”, “Is this all there is?”or “Am I living my values?”, this may mean that the spiritual influencers are not serving you best in your life.

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#20 – My Brain is saying WHAT? (Part 1 )
Influencers, Part 3

Mental factors are another way of saying “Brain Power” and brain functioning. If you think of your body as a computer, then your consciousness is the computer programmer (this is the reason you think the way you do), and your brain is the hardware (the processing part of the computer). Mental factors influencing your energy involve those things that allow you to be present in the moment—to be alert, focused, and clear—in order to harness your mental faculties for decision making, idea generation, and performance.

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#19, What's My Purpose, Anyway? - Influencers, Part 2

If you don’t feel at peace in your life, or restless and not energetic about your life, you can check in and see whether the spiritual influencer is affecting you. When you are asking yourself questions like “What is my purpose, anyway?”, “Is this all there is?”or “Am I living my values?”, this may mean that the spiritual influencers are not serving you best in your life.

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#18 –Don’t Stress Me Out – Influencers, Part 1

Mental factors are another way of saying “Brain Power” and brain functioning. This week we will finish up with talking about desired degree of mental stimulation, mental clutter, centering, and making the mental influencers work for you. Each of these factors can enhance your energy and performance, or they can detract from it. Once you become aware of which ones of these affect you the most, you can take steps to make sure they are working for you and not against you.

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#17 - What is a Coach, Anyway?

You may be wondering what is a coach anyway? Today we’re going to talk about that and help you understand the distinctions between several of the helping professions and coaching. You are probably familiar with sports coaches, mentors, consultants, and therapists. All of these professionals can be needed and helpful at different times, and a coach is able to discern when the person might need to be referred to a different form of specialist. Coaching, however is distinct from any of these modalities and I have been so excited and amazed to see how powerful it is in helping people discover their own solutions to their problems, instead of being advised or taught by someone else.

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#16 - Don't Block My Energy - Part 5 - Gremlins

The last inner block in our series is the Gremlin. A gremlin lies within every one of us. You know that little voice in your head—the one that tells you not to try, never to take a risk, always to take the safe road, and to compromise your life by playing small? That’s your gremlin, and the message from your gremlin’s warnings is, very simply, you’re just not good enough. Your gremlin is highly personal and has the most intense emotional charge of any of the blocks we’ve explored. When your gremlin speaks, it’s very hard not to listen. And when you do listen, you won’t even try something, because your gremlin has already told you you’ll fail at it, be hurt, or be embarrassed. We will learn some ways to challenge, accept and disempower our gremlins.

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#15 - Don't Block My Energy - Part 4 - Assumptions

An assumption is a belief that because something happened in the past, it is automatically going to happen again. Assumptions are more personal than limiting beliefs because a limiting belief is just something you picked up somewhere – a general belief that holds you back. An Interpretation is a little more personal because it is a story you create in your mind about a situation. Assumptions hit closer to home because they evolve from personal experience. You had a bad experience with something in the past, and because it went badly before, you assume it will go badly again. Assumptions hold you back because, from past experience, when you believe you already “know” something won’t work for you, you’ve failed before you’ve tried.

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#14 - Don't Block My Energy - Part 3 - Interpretation

Today’s inner block is called interpretation. It can happen when you don’t have enough information to make a true assessment. It is the opinion you create about an event, situation, or experience. In essence, you make up a quick story based on your beliefs and past experiences, unconsciously look for evidence to support it, and believe that your story is true, when in actuality, your interpretation often represents only one viewpoint among the many that are possible.

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#13 - Don't Block My Energy - Part 2 - Limiting Beliefs

You may have heard the story of Roger Bannister. Prior to 1954 everyone believed that it was physically impossible to run a mile in under 4 minutes. It was impossible and dangerous even to attempt. And then in 1954 Roger Bannister broke that mark – he ran the mile in less than 4 minutes and ever since then many people have broken it over and over. This is what we call a limiting belief, the first inner block we’re going to look at. A limiting belief is a belief you have about the world, about other people, about situations, and about life in general that hold you back from success and from getting what you want.

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#12 - Don't Block My Energy - Part 1 - Outer Blocks

Sometimes the choices you make – or don’t make – limit your potential and your performance. Other times you didn’t even see all of the choices that you have. Both of these situations can be due to deep and powerful energy blocks that hold you back from your potential. We are starting a new series called Don’t Block My Energy - which will give us more skills to move ourselves out of the lower levels of energy and into that energetic, powerful life that we want to experience.

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#11 - I AM - Winning and Losing are Illusions -
Level 7 Energy

Have you ever been in the middle of creating something – maybe a speech or lesson about something you care about, or if you’re an artist – maybe a painting, crocheting a baby blanket, maybe even doing some interior decorating in your house? You’re so focused on what you are creating, that time seems to stand still – you have no sense of time, maybe you’re even able to ignore hunger signals and when you finally “come up to breathe”, you’re like, whoa, I need to get to the bathroom! You were in the zone.

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#10 - We are the World... Level 6 Energy

We are on Level 6 in our exploration of the 7 Levels of Energy – or ways we look at the world. When we resonate at Level 6 we have broadened our thinking past focusing only on ourselves or our close family - we come to feel that all of us in the world are one. We are unique individuals, but yet we are all one World.

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#9 - Good Luck, Bad Luck, Who Knows - Level 5 Energy

As we move into Level 5 energy, one of the changes we see is that we don’t make judgments about whether a circumstance is good or bad, because we realize that something good can always come out of a situation, as God tells us that He will make all things work for good. We also begin to create situations where we all win – instead of you win or I win – we win together.

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#8 - Can I Help You? Level 4 Energy

When life crashes down on us (in small or large ways) it is normal to turn inward – to be in “survival” mode. We literally don’t have the energy to do much more than take care of ourselves and our loved ones. We don’t have any extra brainpower to think about other people.

AND when we can move out of survival mode just even an inch or two – if we can summon enough energy to look around and see if we can help someone else, we reap great benefits!

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#7 - Let’s Make Some Lemonade - Level 3 Energy

Join me as we explore Level 3 energy, which is where we take responsibility for our own choices. We become able to tolerate and forgive. Level 3 starts to become energy that builds us up instead of tearing us down.

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#6 - Why Do You Make Me So Angry - Level 2 Energy

We will continue our exploration of the 7 levels of energy or the lens through which we see our world. All levels are normal and useful at times. We want to become aware of what level we are feeling and then decide how we want to show up. Today we will talk about Level 2.

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#5 - I Can’t Win For losing – Level 1 Energy

Why does everything happen to me? I can’t ever do anything right. Just my luck. I shouldn’t expect anything different. I’m just so sad. These are some for the thoughts we may have when we are experiencing level 1 energy.

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#4 - What Level of Energy are You Feeling?
Introduction to Energy Levels

We can spend a lot of time and money trying to keep from feeling “negative” emotions and trying to always be happy and positive. Interestingly, all feelings, all emotions, all energy states have their place in our lives.

Some of them give us more energy and build us up, and others can tear us down if we live in them all the time. When we learn to become aware of the energy we are feeling and showing up with, we can make a choice about whether this energy is serving us. Then we can respond to a situation rather than react to the world around us.

The next 7 shows will be discussing the 7 levels of energy that I teach as an IPEC Core Energy Coach (Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching.)

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#3 - Action and Acceptance

Have you ever had a life experience that you thought was going to be terrible, and it turned out to be great?

Life throws many surprises at us, and we can’t anticipate what effect they will always have on our lives. We can have a powerful impact on our own happiness by managing our thoughts about these circumstances. If we determine that we can actually do something to change our circumstances, then let’s take action. If we decide that there is nothing we can do, then once we start working on accepting that situation, we can live more joyfully.

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#2 - Anxiety

Are you struggling with anxiety?

There are things we tell ourselves that make it worse. When we think these anxiety-producing thoughts, we can change them to more productive, more TRUE reflections that will help to lessen our anxiety.

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#1 - The Magical (Nearly) Tool to Help Quiet Your Brain

I will be sharing a "nearly" magic tool! Are you ready to calm your brain, sleep at night, focus on dally life, enjoy being with your loved ones, and have a general sense of peace and calm in your brain?

Then listen on!

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